Grief Talk w/ Vonne Solis
As an Author, Angel Healing Practitioner and bereaved mom since 2005, through guest interviews and coaching, I share great content that is informative, inspiring and practical to help anyone who has suffered a loss, or other adversity, manage grief and heal. Topics focus on loss, grief advocacy, grief support, healing, personal growth and consciousness expansion for holistic wellbeing.
Grief Talk w/ Vonne Solis
Ep. 97 Embracing the Power of I AM: Aligning with Source to Transform Your Life
Welcome to Part 12 of Soul Sisters series! In this episode, together with my sister Brenda Rachel, we delve into our shared mission to help others expand their consciousness and create astounding personal growth in all life areas of relying on three key principles.
We reflect on our respective transformative journeys - Brenda’s experience with fibromyalgia and my own path through profound bereavement after the suicide of my daughter in 2005. Together, we emphasize the power of intention and the essential role of broadening one’s awareness to create the life you truly want to be living. At any age and through every tough experience.
Our conversation explores the profound concept of “I AM”, distinguishing between the ego-driven “i am” and Source-connected “I AM” that is essential for conscious evolution. We discuss how aligning with Source is key to manifesting your desires through a process that invites you to cultivate faith, trust, and a belief in your own transformative power. And throughout, we share personal stories and offer practical examples of how our own intentions continue to regularly manifest in our lives with ease and speed that allow us to live the lives we truly desire! And so can you!
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Brenda's book "Broken Spirit, Awakened Soul, My Journey of Healing with the Angels"
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Vonne Solis 0:00
Music. Welcome to the Soul Sisters series
Vonne Solis 0:10
where you'll get thought-driven inspiring topics for your soul! With Vonne Solis and Brenda Rachel.
Vonne Solis 0:30
Okay, so here we are with Part 12 of the Soul Sisters. Welcome. I'm Vonne.
Brenda Rachel 0:37
I'm Brenda, and together we are the Soul Sisters!
Vonne Solis 0:44
That's a nice kickoff to the episode. It gets us in the energy, doesn't it?
Brenda Rachel 0:49
It sure does.
Vonne Solis 0:50
Because we can be here, like, seriously, just before I hit record, and kind of go, errr... I don't know what I'm gonna say, and Bren's like, I don't know what I'm gonna say.
Brenda Rachel 0:58
Right.
Vonne Solis 0:59
And then that button, the record goes on, and we're with you, and the angels start filtering in, and we just get into the zone, don't we?
Brenda Rachel 1:07
We do. We do.
Vonne Solis 1:08
Of what our mission is, which is consciousness expansion. You know, inspiration, healing, anything else?
Brenda Rachel 1:20
I think encouragement, support.
Vonne Solis 1:23
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 1:23
All kinds of things.
Vonne Solis 1:24
Yeah, exactly.
Vonne Solis 1:26
And we have a growing audience, and I've always believed as do you that the people that are meant to find this information, and any information, really, on your journey to do any of those things that we just mentioned, that information finds us, doesn't it?
Brenda Rachel 1:40
It sure does.
Vonne Solis 1:41
Yeah. So what we talk about, you know, we offer a conversation. So you get to listen to sisters who just talk and, you know. We talk our way through things and what we're going through as we're growing and expanding our consciousness. Because I believe that we expand right to our deathbed, basically.
Brenda Rachel 1:58
Absolutely.
Vonne Solis 1:59
Our physical deathbed.
Brenda Rachel 2:00
I absolutely agree with that.
Vonne Solis 2:01
You know, it's the journey is never over to what we can know and learn for ourselves. And, you know, and and life hey on this planet is just, you know, it challenges us. We never, sort of, I think, get away from the challenges. Because even ifthey're not ours personally, or we're not really, you know, impacted directly? It's happening to people all around us. Stuff. Stuff, stuff. Stuff we may have gone through years ago. And I'm not talking right now, the stuff that is our core, foundational piece to this. So the information is just going to find you, and then, you know, you'll resonate with your teachers. The teachings right? As you move along through life. We've had a few decades on the planet now. So if you're joining us, and you are in earlier years, trust that your journey will unfold and information will come to you to help you with whatever you need the moment you allow it to enter your life. And I just mean by that you're making a conscious effort to say, I need, I want more in my life.
Brenda Rachel 3:07
Right.
Vonne Solis 3:07
And that's what we're here to provide you. So today is kind of just a little bit of a continuation of last week. We decided to keep going with the, this series you know past the original, nine episodes, which explain all our journey and how we got to where we are today, respectively. Me from you know, bereavement. The pain and suffering of bereavement losing my child to suicide, Janaya, at the age of 22 in 2005. And Brenda with your - you can say.
Brenda Rachel 3:08
Yeah. Yeah, no, just my debilitating illnesses and and, yeah.
Vonne Solis 3:51
Disability.
Brenda Rachel 3:51
Disabilities.
Vonne Solis 3:52
Yeah, right.
Brenda Rachel 3:53
That led me to a conscious suicide attempt.
Vonne Solis 3:55
Right. And that was really Bren's from a diagnosis of fibro in her early 40s with a wheelchair-bound prognosis. So both of us coming from these major life events.
Brenda Rachel 4:11
Right. Right.
Vonne Solis 4:13
That some people go through, everybody goes through stuff. Events are a little different from like, just challenges and, you know, but it could be an event. If it's an event that's impacted your life and giving you trauma or illness or, you know, anything. I mean, even getting fired, you could be suicidal. It could be anything. If it's an event, life event, for you, it's a life event. And traditionally, they sort of consider marriage, birth, death, you know, big life events. It could be, you know, moving and stuff, but you could look them up and see what a life event truly is. But death is certainly one. Illness is certainly one. And we both live with a condition, let's just say that is never going to go away. So today, there's no cure for fibro.
Brenda Rachel 5:00
No.
Vonne Solis 5:01
There's certainly no cure for bereavement. Once you're bereaved, you're always bereaved. I spoke with a psychologist recently who actually said that grief never goes away. It just changes. That's interesting. So there are different opinions on whether or not we will always live with grief. I don't have an opinion today about that, not really. I'm in-between that. But whatever it is for you, um, whatever discomfort, if not suffering, one has in their life. You, may have in your life, or you just want to expand your thinking, because being human isn't enough for you. Just in in the body. And we got into our spiritual journeys decades, decades ago. So again, once enlightened, even a teeny weeny, tiny light bulb moment that goes, Oh, there's more. Or you have some amazing experience and go into infinity for a brief moment in a meditation. Anything that shows you, wow, there's stuff out there. I can't see it. I have to trust it. And you make a commitment to that. The world just opens up to you.
Brenda Rachel 6:09
Absolutely.
Vonne Solis 6:11
People call them miracles right?
Brenda Rachel 6:13
Limitless possibilities. I think it opens, it opened my consciousness to understanding that I'm the creator of my reality. But also that I can have anything that I choose to have and consciously can accept for myself to have. So I have to be able to receive what I'm asking for.
Vonne Solis 6:33
Yeah. I think one of the complications right now in the world, and has been for a few decades, is that when we talk about being able to create the life you want, largely it's, it's in the context of wealth and money. Let's just be honest, money. Hard currency. How much you own. So the the amount of materialistic stuff you have? Materialism? Determines to others, it shows you and others how successful you are. I could buy a great big house, the car, the boat, travel. Wear all these fancy, expensive clothes, therefore I am successful. And they got into this, you know, definition of success by means of, of, of currency, wealth. Wealth is currency in terms of, you know, money and materialistic things, certainly, certainly, all through 20th century. I'm not that old, but just from stuff you know, going back to, I'd say the 70s, early 80sis when I, early 80s is when I got into it, 1981. And before that, you know, you're still kind of on the cusp of writers, you know, kind of of using and talking about consciousness. What we think we feel, and determines our health, for example,and and so there's way, way, way more advanced work on that decades later.
Vonne Solis 8:11
But if you go back to, say, the 19th century, even the 18th century, and you know, and there was quite a spiritual movement amongst writers, artists. And, you know, you'll read about, you know, I studied English in university. So you'll read about how they got together, and they would have these, you know, amazing conversations. Sometimes seances and things like that, and, or even if you watch movies of the era, and you'll see that the spiritual component, um, you know, or in the writings of poets and that, they often reference what we talk about today. And it's so cool because it really didn't revolve around money. It was more the consciousness. And so anyway, that's just something that I just want to say.
Vonne Solis 9:00
So when we say we're living the way we want to live, and any other person that you meet and admire and is living the way they want to live. And you know, they may be living in a log cabin on an acre, you know, with a little lake in front ofthem, which would not indicate anything, you know, sort of demonstrative of extreme wealth. So it's about the wealth you feel inside. To that person, that could be the epitome of everything they need and want to feel complete and wholeand content on this planet. So certainly, when I and I would wager you, talk about creating the life, living the life you want, it is within the context of what we feel that completes us rather than what we own.
Brenda Rachel 9:50
Yeah, I was just sitting here listening to what you're saying and my whole assessment of what my my um, journey has been, has never included wealth at all.
Vonne Solis 10:05
Yeah, it's never been important to you has it?
Brenda Rachel 10:07
No.
Vonne Solis 10:07
Interesting.
Brenda Rachel 10:08
No.
Vonne Solis 10:08
And, and you're a person that would give the shirt off your back to someone else, and often, well, you know, almost, almost a shirt off her back.
Brenda Rachel 10:17
Yeah, I would always help, help anybody at any time, if I could.
Vonne Solis 10:21
Yeah. Very giving, and never thinking, like, say, if you want to buy a bouquet of flowers for someone, you don't sit there and go, hmm, do I have enough money? The $20 $30 bucks in the bank I'm, I don't have, you know. So that's, that's a, that's a, you know, trait of yours that's really quite admirable, and and, and wonderful. It's just part of who you are. Who you came to the planet, to be. A very giving person. You know, a selfless person. And your needs are minimal. I can't tell tell you how many times I remember you giving all your stuff away and starting over.
Brenda Rachel 10:51
Yeah, yeah.
Vonne Solis 10:52
You know? Like even it seems like your natural so what what more can I give away because I don't need it?
Brenda Rachel 10:58
Right. Right.
Vonne Solis 11:00
Because I don't need it.
Brenda Rachel 11:01
Right. And I'm actually going through that process right now. Looking around my place and just deciding what in here do I really, have I used it in the last 10 years or 15 years or whatever?
Vonne Solis 11:13
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 11:13
Do I really need it?
Vonne Solis 11:14
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 11:14
Not that wherever, if it was on a shelf or in a cupboard or whatever, that I need that room for something else. So it's not taking out space for something.
Vonne Solis 11:23
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 11:23
It's just, it's not doing anything, sitting there and maybe somebody else could use it. So I was just going through that about the last couple of weeks.
Vonne Solis 11:30
The thing is also, when you, the the more expanded your consciousness becomes, and all of our episodes in the Soul Sisters series are rooted in consciousness expansion, but arriving at it and wanting to pursue it in different contexts. Andthose episodes offer a variety of contexts in which we pursue and don't give up when we're on that path. So today we'retalking about the large I AM. I AM all caps as Source. The supplier, if you will. Consciousness. Our Provider, our God, TheUniverse. Whatever name you want to ascribe it versus the small i am. Okay, small letters. And that came to us one day, sitting having Chai out.
Brenda Rachel 12:33
Yep.
Vonne Solis 12:33
And we were talking about how we come to the planet. Okay, well, there are those that believe we come to the planet to suffer, and we did all about that in Part 11. So we've we've talked all about that in previous episodes. Are we here to suffer? Are we not here to suffer? That's not the point of today's conversation. What we are looking at is our consciousness. The more we expand and the more we feel at one, the more we can separate from ego. So the small i am representing ego. The all caps I AM representing, I'll just say Source today. Source and ego.
Brenda Rachel 13:20
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 13:23
When we, you know how, when we get into that, the ego, right? To recognize that we're in it and what to do to get out of it, and go just stop, you know? And so when we were talking about coming to the planet, and I made this comment to you, Well, it's like a smorgasbord of suffering. Take your choice. And and then we're like, oh, well, we could talk abouta smorgasbord of suffering. And then I went, you know what? That's kind of exhausting because it's already exhausted, and it's kind of exhaustive because it's so all encompassing for so many people, and the planet itself.
Brenda Rachel 14:02
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 14:04
Ooh. And so it's like, take your pick. But so instead of doing that, well, you know what? So let's just focus on the I AM. SoI think we made a comment about oh, like, when, Oh, I'm tired. I am feeling not well. I am whatever it is. I am in the negative though. I am broke. I am miserable. I am mad at my partner. I am whatever the I Am is, which, if you stop and really think and count how many times we say it right?
Brenda Rachel 14:36
Many. I think it's so subconscious and ...
Vonne Solis 14:41
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 14:42
Even to a point like unconscious that we use that terminology to start a sentence. And yet, when you have the opportunity, as when we were talking and all all of a sudden went, Wow, this would be a great topic to talk about. The I AM all caps versus the I am, smaller letters. Well, the I.
Vonne Solis 15:03
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 15:04
The I am smaller letters. And.
Vonne Solis 15:07
No, the i is even small.
Brenda Rachel 15:09
Oh, it is?
Vonne Solis 15:09
i dot.
Brenda Rachel 15:10
Oh i dot.
Vonne Solis 15:11
i dot.
Brenda Rachel 15:11
Small i.
Brenda Rachel 15:13
Okay.
Vonne Solis 15:13
Small am.,
Brenda Rachel 15:14
Oh, yeah.
Vonne Solis 15:14
It takes the so, so what we were so, what we were going, what this led me to think about immediately is and it was like a light bulb moment for me was, if you thought of yourself as I AM as Source. All encompassing, powerful Source. I AM all caps. Surely to goodness, we wouldn't sit there and go I AM sick. I AM broke. I AM angry. I AM anything. Because all you know in that consciousness is perfection, wholeness, love, contentment, completeness.
Brenda Rachel 16:07
Correct.
Vonne Solis 16:09
Right?
Brenda Rachel 16:10
Correct.
Vonne Solis 16:10
And so the point of our conversation, I don't know how long this is going to be. I don't know how deep we can go, other than just to sort of have you think about it and give some examples here. But it's to, I'll just throw this out and then turn it over to you. But it for me, it's to, when I get in those small i am moments that are completely ego. It's, it's little Vonne in little human body where something has triggered me and angered me or made me fearful or anxious or whatever it is, okay? But it's always in the negative usually. If you stop and think about it. I mean, and I'm not talking about, I'm busy right now. Somebody calls and I'm busy. I'm not talking about that. We're talking this is strictly emotional here. Mental, emotional. It's usually always in the negative. Because if you train yourself, you know when you're feeling successful. When you're feeling content. When you're feeling wealthy. When you're feeling your world is just amazing. And we don't hear that enough from each other, right? We really, I think, almost, have been taught not to boast or scream from the rooftops our joy. And if someone is screaming from the rooftops their joy, everyone stops to look at them and kind of go, how, how? What happened? How'd they get that? Think of weddings. You ever stop by a wedding in a park and you stop for a moment? I mean, most, most people do just to have a little look at the happy bride and groom, or bride and bride or groom and groom, whatever it is today, right? But it triggers an instant understanding of their joy. It's triggering that. It's it's actually triggering is the wrong word, but spreading that out from them, because they just can't help but be so joyful in those moments. And we feel it as soon as we see it. The outfits are symbolic of that joy.
Vonne Solis 18:05
So the I AM is symbolic. Capital I AM is symbolic of that same thing that I believe is at the center, authentically for all of us. And it's been buried. Hidden.
Brenda Rachel 18:22
Mm hmm.
Vonne Solis 18:24
You know, like a little treasure for us to discover?
Brenda Rachel 18:28
Yep.
Vonne Solis 18:29
And it completely changes in us in a heartbeat. Instant. i am, so i am small. i am sick. Want to get rid of it. I AM all caps healed or feel tremendous right at this moment. You know? It's another bit of a of a not a difficult conversation or a complicated subject, but it's, it's one to maybe we have to think about. That maybe you have to think about.
Brenda Rachel 18:58
Well, I also think that it's not to deny the true state of what we're in. If we're feeling sick, i am sick. i am sick. I think the thing that I want to focus on for myself is with the all caps is that that's where I can take myself from the small letters. Okay? So, it's not for me to sit there and say I can never say again i am unwell, or i'm not feeling good, or i am panicked or i am having an anxiety attack, or all the things that I go through. It's okay, how do I get from the small to the large? From from the human small letters to SOURCE caps. And that's the gift that keeps on giving as as we progress, because the I AM caps never goes away. And so we can reach, we can reach for that pinnacle at any moment. You can put it at the top of a piece of paper and put it on your fridge or whatever. Have it on your computer, and just look at that, just I AM and say, what are three things I AM through, through Source right now? And whether it's I AM at peace, or I AM joyful, or I AM receptive. I AM open to receiving goodness today. I AM open to harmony, you know?
Vonne Solis 20:34
Beautiful.
Brenda Rachel 20:35
All these things. Or I AM living harmoniously.
Vonne Solis 20:38
Yeah. So this is like a little coaching tutorial for you. Instead of on, on, you know, a webinar, we'll do it this way for you. So what you're talking, because we haven't talked about this. We talked about this at that Chai.
Brenda Rachel 20:51
We came up with the title and went, Oh, this would be a great title. And we'll just have to see where it goes.
Vonne Solis 20:57
And we, yeah. So I, I will, will say that I don't consciously remember it all the time. But here's the thing. When you're aware of something, it's easy to go back to it.
Brenda Rachel 21:10
Yes, yeah.
Vonne Solis 21:11
And go wait a minute. I remember that now.
Brenda Rachel 21:12
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 21:13
So as you were talking the small i am to the capital I am. We'll go the large I AM. And you said, the pinnacle. Okay, so I AM all caps is the pinnacle of what I want to be feeling and expressing in this body going forward for the rest of my incarnation. So it says I so so how I wrote it down while you were speaking is it's a representation of who we are and who we all are, and what I am striving to be at all times in my inner state. So the other thing I wrote is, it's an inner state all caps I AM is the inner state that creates the outer states.
Brenda Rachel 21:59
Right. And I think also too for me, it's my absolute most spiritual connection with Source. Whenever I start something with an I AM. Because that's my acknowledgement that everything in that state comes from Source. And it's not the physical me, like in some kind of lower state of mind on on the planet. I AM in my absolute deepest connection with Source, with the capital I AM.
Vonne Solis 22:38
Yes. So I think we've made it pretty clear how we, just you and me, consider that,.
Brenda Rachel 22:47
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 22:48
Again, for me ...
Brenda Rachel 22:49
This isn't to try and and have any of you adapt this as your philosophy.
Vonne Solis 22:55
Right.
Brenda Rachel 22:55
Or way of wanting to live. This is totally where I'm coming from and my own living experience.
Vonne Solis 23:02
Right.
Brenda Rachel 23:02
And spiritual experience.
Vonne Solis 23:04
For me, it's kind of like a a strategy. An instant strategy I can use to get myself out of a state small i am. The lower state. Let's just call it lower and higher.
Brenda Rachel 23:17
Sure. I love that.
Vonne Solis 23:19
Isn't that nice?
Brenda Rachel 23:19
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 23:19
Lower and higher?
Brenda Rachel 23:20
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 23:21
See?
Brenda Rachel 23:22
Well, because it comes to this before talking, because it's lower case, and higher.
Vonne Solis 23:31
That's how stuff comes to us, okay? But it's true. So the lower the lower state, the higher state. And there has been debate about "I am" for millennia, probably. So we come here with this "I am", which also is a pronouncement, if you will, of our individuality.
Brenda Rachel 23:59
Right.
Vonne Solis 23:59
And the higher state "I AM" is the collective, the connection to One. So our collective as humans on this planet, whether we like it or not. And all spiritual practitioners, both as leaders, coaches and students, understand that from the very beginning.
Brenda Rachel 24:20
Right.
Vonne Solis 24:21
We are One.
Brenda Rachel 24:22
Right.
Vonne Solis 24:23
And the I AM is all caps "I AM".
Brenda Rachel 24:27
Inclusive.
Vonne Solis 24:28
Inclusive.
Brenda Rachel 24:29
Inclusive of all humanity on the planet.
Vonne Solis 24:32
Right. And the ego, right? The small, the lower "i am", right? Is, you know, the human, essentially. Us without recognition of that greater power that we all have within that the connection gives us.
Brenda Rachel 24:51
Right.
Vonne Solis 24:52
So ...
Brenda Rachel 24:54
The small i am, is we're not tapping into our true potential that we came here to be, which is spiritual beings on this planet.
Vonne Solis 25:03
Our potential and our power.
Brenda Rachel 25:04
And our power, right.
Vonne Solis 25:05
Our potential and our power. And when, I talk a lot about personal power, and I've be talking about it since basically 2006 when I when I wrote Divine Healing. And that book is based on, on complete, you know, transformation by by understanding and claiming your personal power. Transforming Pain into Personal Power is the subtitle of that. And so your work is all in in, you don't really frame it in personal power your work, do you? But mine is, and I, and, you know, and, and so personal power is something we're starting to see more of as language today as well. It's very interesting. It's it's not as kind of like, you know, an isolating a phrase, as it was back in the early 2000s. Certainly when I was the mid, early 2000s when I was writing Divine Healing. But that book, a large part, was channelled to me by angels and my daughter on the other side. So I had to write it, even if I didn't, maybe connect to it. I understood it, but culturally, we're just at that point, and even today, we're not talking a whole heck of a lot about personal power, personal power, personal power. Not in the sense of our inner being and what we, what we really have as a capability. What we really are capable of doing. Which really to make it simple, guys, is just creating the life we want, and having things be easy, not difficult. And having everything roll into our lap.
Brenda Rachel 26:53
Right.
Vonne Solis 26:54
Right?
Brenda Rachel 26:54
Right.
Vonne Solis 26:55
Which people call magic or miracles. We live like that don't we?
Brenda Rachel 27:00
Yep.
Vonne Solis 27:00
Oh nd so does my son, right? And and so we might, and my husband. I mean he can't help but benefit. But I guess I'll give him a nod and say he does believe in this stuff too. But you're welcome. But you know, there are so many examples of manifestations in my life and your life, and certainly my son's that because I raised him this way. And my daughter isn't here anymore, but I raised her the same, so she would have benefited too. She probably was already, but you know, so I have to keep it to just my son. But I taught him. And so for me, it's so much fun to watch another generation.
Brenda Rachel 27:48
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 27:49
Who poo poos this stuff, by the way. But then, oh, gets everything he wants. Everything he wants. Okay? Right down to the colour of the vehicle. Right down to the job he wants. Now, these things can take time, and so for any of you with this consciousness, even being influenced by it, like my son. Or maybe you're an adult child of a parent that's raised you this way, and life's just really easy. And I'm not talking about, you know, the golden spoon here, or silver spoon and being handed everything. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about seeing examples of having, say, a spiritual parent, or a parent with a spiritual practice who has taught you, you know, life doesn't have to be hard. We can really manifest and get what we want. What is it that you really want? Because the other big piece of this is two things, um, and I want to get your opinion or your thoughts on this. Is one, we have to know what we want.
Brenda Rachel 28:50
Right.
Vonne Solis 28:51
Which can change.
Brenda Rachel 28:52
Right.
Vonne Solis 28:52
And then the second thing is, um, the time piece. Sometimes it ha, it takes a little while.
Brenda Rachel 29:01
Right and I was just going to interject there and just say, so we have to know what we want and not give it any kind of time frame. So ...
Vonne Solis 29:11
The bigger things. Like anything actually. Anything.
Brenda Rachel 29:13
Oh, yeah, absolutely anything. But not to set like it, that it has to be in a month or two months.
Vonne Solis 29:20
Right.
Brenda Rachel 29:20
Whatever?
Vonne Solis 29:21
Right.
Brenda Rachel 29:21
Because some things may come much quicker than you ever thought, I ever thought possible. Things manifested. And other times not, not so much.
Vonne Solis 29:34
And the reason I believe this is because all the pieces, sometimes what we want? There are other players. And often say, if it's a job that you're really really wanting, sometimes, boom, you're gonna get it like right away. Other times, the right place for you has to open up through a series of other events.
Brenda Rachel 29:59
Exactly.
Vonne Solis 30:00
That are happening and it's like a chessboard with all these pieces moving around. Actually, like Domino's even. And sometimes, if I spend too much time thinking about all the people affected and everything has to move in in like this complete perfect formation for everyone to go where they're meant to go to? It's amazing. And I will wager almost anyone you ever talk to if you're if and if you're living your like life like this already? Yay! You'll, you'll totally be sitting there, I got you. I get you. I get you. If you're not and you're going, mmm .. Yeah, sounds great for you, um, or sounds great. Get me in on this. Okay? Really, it is a matter of learning the power. Understanding and trusting that power one has to believe. And and so you want something? You know? Nobody is you know, unfamiliar with the concept of intending, manifesting. Brenda and I have talked about that before. We really don't have a structured intention manifestation practice. Because we work with angels and have for so long now, it's just a we do the request up and basically get it. We just wait and then we get it. And if we don't, it's because something better came along. Okay, quite frankly.
Vonne Solis 31:23
And I'll be honest. You know, maybe something doesn't turn out? I've said before, in one of our episodes, I, for fun, keep a Word document with all my my requests. Requests that cause me or have, they don't anymore. But, you know, anxiety, oh, I really need that to work out. I really need that to work out. I'm I think, at page 40 on my table. And I chart the date I asked, what I asked for. The date that something occurred. Whether it was fulfilled or something different happened. I had a request on there it's like, maybe two years old. And I'll be honest. That one was for my son to be directed to the exact perfect job that he had identified. You know, he somewhat that he really wanted, and it just actually occurred this past week. And it is now, I know it's like a mom, I can kind of go, okay, great. He's on his way on he's on his he's on his way on his path.
Vonne Solis 32:23
And I'm sharing that with you because he's in his early 30s, and this is a time for some of you, if you're watching this as millennials and even younger, but certainly in your 30s, maybe a little older, and you're making changes. You're in that part of your life where some are settling down. Some are getting, you know, you know, into a relationship, having families. Making different career choices or or, you know, wanting to be promoted and move up in their career, things like that. And, and the 20s can be a really, you know, thought-provoking decade. Where you're trying to figure out what you'd want to kind of do, and you get into it, and and, and then have to really rethink again, to set you up for a different period in in your life. Which, it's really interesting, because I was reading about how the 30's sort of are this period I just talked about. So to me, it's sort of a period of a stability and and a foundation for the rest of the adulthood. And I'm, I'm seeing that in my my son.
Vonne Solis 33:23
And so I'm just giving that as an example, because so he's kind of like my star coaching client. And okay, I would be really, really wealthy if I charged him for all of my time. You know. But anyway, it's really interesting, because I get to see whether my ideas that I have for him and and how I encourage and support and coach him based on everything we're talking about, right? You can do this, you got, you know, and then seeing the stuff fall in his lap, where it looks to other people like, well, that's just not possible. He actually just had someone say, what you're doing is just not possible. Well, guess what? It was. And in a very speedy timeframe.
Vonne Solis 34:12
So it's so much fun also to live like this, isn't it? Because we know, and we, you know, we trust that what we want, and the things that you want, by the way, they never go away. That's a very deep-seated, no, I really want this, right? And other things that we go I think I might like that, or whatever, you know? If it eventually kind of, you know, yeah, no, not so much, or you forget about it, or whatever. And this is the time piece we're talking about, right? And when you have to wait? That waiting period before you actually see something become very real in your life, it could also give us the opportunity to kind of go, yeah, maybe I don't want that. And that's happened to me plenty of times.
Brenda Rachel 35:01
Yeah, and I'll just interject here because most of the things that I ask for aren't material. And so.
Vonne Solis 35:07
Like, what would be an example?
Brenda Rachel 35:08
I don't have the the last thing that I asked for that I got was my apartment across the way here, almost four, well going into my fourth year. And I had requested, from where I was living, that the next place I wanted would be a top floor and that I'd be close to you.
Vonne Solis 35:15
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 35:25
And so I got that within five days, 10 days? Because I moved within 23 days from my former place to here.
Vonne Solis 35:39
And we're neighbours.
Brenda Rachel 35:40
And we're neighbours. And we can see each other from each other's balconies. So ...
Vonne Solis 35:44
We're right across our buildings. But you know
Brenda Rachel 35:44
My point is that.
Vonne Solis 35:47
Yes. But what I was gonna say though. Getting a top floor where we live on Vancouver Island in an ocean side, small city? Yeah, good luck with that.
Vonne Solis 35:52
Yeah, and that was when I say top so it was the fourth floor. So they have, like ...
Vonne Solis 36:01
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 36:01
Not, not a lot of large buildings. But in any event,
Vonne Solis 36:04
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 36:04
It's not an ocean view, and it's nothing like that, like these, my sister and brother in law have. But, they have a spectacular, beautiful view from their place, which I get to enjoy when I'm here. But I'm just saying so that mine's more for healing and for peace of mind.
Vonne Solis 36:18
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 36:19
And for just having different things that come out of the blue for me that I have to deal with and I get anxiety about to help me through those processes.
Brenda Rachel 36:30
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 36:31
Yeah that's an interesting point you're making. Because I'm sitting here going, when's the last time I asked for something material? I don't even know. I doubt it. I just don't because I have everything I need. I really do. And if I need something, I know I'm going to get it. Just I can get it. So for me, it would be more things, like reducing anxiety. I'll ask for things for my son.
Brenda Rachel 36:56
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 36:56
I might ask things for my sister. But, you know, it's, it's just it's more along the lines for us, for sure, keeping this just between you and me, what Brenda just talked about. Good health, recovery, calm, peace, contentment, things like that.So bringing it back to you, because we're the ones sharing here, and have been at this practice for so so long in our respective lives. Decades. Four decades, over 4,43, years for me. 43? 44? No, 40 Well, we'll go with 43 and you probably almost 50. I don't know 48? I don't know but decades.
Brenda Rachel 36:56
A long time.
Vonne Solis 36:57
A long time okay? So this is like we've had our own things that we've had to learn along the way, and expand, expand, expand. But when you've been in this long enough, it comes down to really, a couple of really, two really basic, basic things. You know? Believe trust and have faith.
Brenda Rachel 37:54
Exactly. Three things.
Vonne Solis 37:56
Believe, trust and have faith, right?
Brenda Rachel 37:58
Yep.
Vonne Solis 37:59
Know, know thyself and believe, trust and have faith that you can create what you want and how you do that, then is by asking for the right guidance, right? The right tools. The right people to come into your life. The right community to be a support for you. Awareness, insight, courage.
Brenda Rachel 38:27
And I'm just going to throw in here and um, you might want to add to this, but always, always for my highest and best.
Vonne Solis 38:34
Yes.
Brenda Rachel 38:35
Always. We only want things for our absolute highest and best.
Vonne Solis 38:41
Yeah. And I, and I forgot to add that, because I do actually say it in my morning, I have a morning ritual that I go through for myself. Just mentally for my highest and best, and the highest and best of all others concerned, by the way.And you know, for us, the angels have made this just so much more impacting, hey?
Brenda Rachel 39:04
Well, we just know before we put out our request that it's going to be answered.
Vonne Solis 39:09
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 39:09
It might not be answered exactly how we're asking it. There might be something that's not quite exactly that way, but it absolutely will be answered. And always in a positive manner.
Vonne Solis 39:23
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 39:23
Always.
Vonne Solis 39:24
And if it's a different result for us ...
Brenda Rachel 39:27
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 39:29
And so I'm trying to think of an example, because this, this wouldn't for me be related to say, a health or anxiety, because that's always answered. But I'm just saying, you know, so say, if it's something I've asked for my son like to be directed or for me, I'll give you an example. Here's, here's a recent example. So this isn't exactly materialistic, but it is, uh, opportunity. So, um, so my husband and I are going travelling in December for a few months to Southeast Asia. And one night, maybe about three or four weeks ago, I got this, like epiphany to do pet-sitting abroad. So fast forward, it was all arranged, and we got our first gig within, you know, two weeks. And I didn't even apply, like to go on this platform for at least a week, a week and a half, because I was like, No, I need to think about this. I need to think about this.
Vonne Solis 40:23
And when we decided on the Monday, okay, let's join. So we joined the platform, and this is like, maybe two weeks ago now, I don't know. And by Wednesday, we had our first local sit on an island that's actually, like, literally, we can see the island. Ahh, you know, so we can come home if we need to, or my husband, but, you know, it's like one little 20-minute ferry ride for us, and we're going to look after these two little pooches. So I was open to that. So the larger picture was, how cool would this be, if we could do this in Southeast Asia a little bit. We get to spend some time with animals. Purpose of the platform, because we no longer own animals. We currently do a little little pet-sitting for a friend of ours with a cat and a dog. So we get our little cuddles that way. And we totally love animals. And thirdly, you know, there's so many benefits, but thirdly, we can maybe meet some cool ex-pats in different countries. And, you know, and a primary reason for a lot of people that it shouldn't be this is that it can save on accommodation costs while you're travelling.
Vonne Solis 41:27
So, so just saying, to get that first gig within, like, a few days of getting on the platform. But here's what I want to say, it wasn't the one I thought I needed to go to.
Brenda Rachel 41:40
Right.
Vonne Solis 41:41
Okay? And which was cats and on another island close to us. And so at first I was a little bit like, whoa, okay, this didn't work out. But I'm just trusting the process. So I'm going, Okay, it's dogs. It's a different island. Same period of time we got the gig. That's where we're meant to go. And so the other piece I want to say, and this is once you trust, believe, have faith, right? And you have to get you know better at it. Because it can be very hard in the beginning, when you first start this kind of practice, to get to that point where you just Yep, request in letting it go, and then, oh yeah, I got that.
Vonne Solis 42:25
Some people sit there and like they're watching the clock and or they don't have enough insight yet to understand that what they're getting is better than what they asked for, right? Like, there are different things that can make a people give up, or it's not quick enough. It depends what you're asking for. A lot of people and this is where I'm going back to what we started with. Success and manifesting is rooted in a lot of times. You want that sports car. You want that luxury holiday. You know, the material stuff that, okay, maybe you really wanted that, but maybe you just think that you want that and need that because you'll have a better life and it'll get you out of your current crappy situation, or whatever it is. Manifesting and change always has to start within to give you the constant transformation and the trust and the faith and the belief, because really, what you're doing is you're believing in yourself as a partner with Source.
Brenda Rachel 43:30
Right. So I'd say, to start with believing and then trusting, and then having the faith that it's going to unfold the way it should, for our high, for your high, yours or mine, higher, highest and best.
Vonne Solis 43:45
Yeah. And that faith piece is so important, because the faith piece isn't just for an intention to to, you know, manifest?
Brenda Rachel 43:54
Right.
Vonne Solis 43:54
The faith piece is our testament to the relationship we have with Source. And, and by the way, this isn't too different from people who are fundamentally religious, or, you know, they're traditionally religious, and so it's it's not like the spiritual, metaphysical practice we're talking about here. It's all rooted in going to church, reading the Bible and trustingGod will deliver. It's not that dissimilar from what we're talking about here.
Brenda Rachel 44:26
Well I'm saying the the whole thing with having faith is, for me, letting go and letting God.
Vonne Solis 44:26
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 44:26
God, Spirit, Source.
Vonne Solis 44:34
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 44:36
Divine.
Vonne Solis 44:37
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 44:37
Whatever, and just letting go.
Vonne Solis 44:39
Yeah. So we were both raised Christian. Have Christian roots and expanded. We expanded that individually and at different ages into a spiritual practice. Which for me, and I'll ask you what you think, but for me, the only real difference is from being just fundamentally Christian, is that I feel a part of God. And I have a right to ask for help from God and angels, and I live as that sort of spark. And that that is what, as soul and spirit, we are a spark of that infiniteness. Infinity. That omnipresence. Just a teeny, tiny spark which gives me the personal power to understand that I can be here and enjoy and have a wonderful, abundant life in every way that I so desire. And that may not be 10 million bucks in my bank account, right? Because I understand money doesn't buy happiness.
Vonne Solis 45:48
For me, I'm not going after the millions of dollars in the bank account, because that's not what I need and I want. I'm quite comfortable with what I have. And that's probably another episode on its own, and I'm not sure that we're going to do that. But understanding what it is that you really, really want and but it is important to understand what we're talking about here in terms of the belief, trust and faith. Because when you start out, and if you learn from teachers or books or YouTube or wherever you're learning from that, you know, you've got this ability to intend something and manifest it, and, man, if you're not living like you know, top of your A-game, you're missing something. Well, then you're always possibly going to be going after things that you're really not checking in with your heart. Your purpose. Your true desires, your true nature, your character of what it is you want and how you really want to be living and surrounded by because it's not the money piece. The money will come. All that stuff will come if that's, in fact, what you need to support, how you want to really be living.
Brenda Rachel 47:04
Well, yeah. And I guess for me, I'd just say it's not any kind of like, like, let's put this out there and just let's see if it happens. It's, oh no. It's not about that. It's like, there has to be a real connection to the commitment to asking Source. To to to working with Source when we intend for something to happen, and not treat it like it's some kind of well, let's just see if this really works. You have to have an innate belief that you deserve this and you are worth this and that you can achieve what you believe.
Vonne Solis 47:47
Yeah, I just wrote down that you have to have a commitment to the connection, power of the relationship to Source. Because that's what it is. It's this relationship you have to the connection to the greater whole. Source. As I say, call it whatever you want. Consciousness. Call it God. Whatever it is that gives us the peace and the knowing that we're not alone, even when we think we are alone in any capacity, in this human life. In our suffering, in our misery, in our ill health, in our times of of poorness, poverty, right? Certainly, we've both had financial struggles.
Brenda Rachel 48:29
Oh, my God.
Vonne Solis 48:30
But not for a long time now, for me anyway, and not for you either, but we got ourselves out of them didn't we?
Brenda Rachel 48:34
Yes. Yeah, yeah, but it was very, very challenging for me for a long time.
Vonne Solis 48:37
Yes, but we had trust and faith didn't we? Didn't we? And in our respective ways, there's a solution for everything. And we got ourselves out of what we got into. So it's not like you get to skip the line for either hardship, suffering, relationship breakups, crappy jobs. You know, places you don't want to live. The list goes on and on and on and on. But until you finesse. Work with and finesse your style, what you want grow into who you authentically are, these challenges actually don't appear as challenges, which we talked about in another episode. They're not challenges anymore. Really, it's just, Okay, I gotta deal with something. What's my solution?
Brenda Rachel 48:38
Right.
Vonne Solis 48:47
And we are getting better, both of us, at going straight to the solution.
Brenda Rachel 49:32
Oh, yeah, absolutely, which is Source for me. But the other thing I'll say too, is that if it doesn't manifest in the way that you put out to Source. And you think like, this isn't what I asked for, then it's not about anything going wrong. It's just that at that time, from wherever your conscious state is, that that's what has manifested for your highest and best in that moment. And so things can, things could look different, differently, come to you differently and in a different way than you even ever who thought that they would. And it doesn't mean that there was anything wrong in the delivery or asking.
Vonne Solis 50:17
No.
Brenda Rachel 50:17
You know, believing that you deserve this.
Vonne Solis 50:20
Yeah. There are a lot of moving pieces to this. So the other thing is to consider wherever you are on your journey and with your experience living a life committed to, you know, having "Source as your driving force". I like that. Source as your driving force.
Brenda Rachel 50:41
Yes.
Vonne Solis 50:41
And wait. I have to write this. Source as your driving force. Oooh, I like that. Anyway, but the thing is, is, because you know you can, you can get in there, within that context, your purpose? As you get older. As you get you know, just, just more in touch at any age with your purpose but let's keep this to an adult. And within that, your lessons, other stuff that happens. Soul contracts. What you what you've contracted with other people. So it's, it's, there's all of that to consider within the whole life, okay? What you study, what you become.The minute you involve other people in your life? The minute and I'm talking intimately involve. So you're in in committed relationship. You have children. You know there could be contracts, things like that. There could be purpose that's related to other individuals. And so the highest good of everyone must be considered.
Brenda Rachel 50:44
Right.
Vonne Solis 50:45
Must be considered.
Brenda Rachel 51:19
Well yes, I would say then if they're asking, if the person out there is asking for things that involve other people and not just themselves, then it's always for the highest and best of either myself or for everyone involved.
Vonne Solis 53:35
Yeah, and so you know, when you want things for a child, for example, adult child, you can ask for them. And when they're an adult? For goodness sake, and even sometimes when they're still younger, you know, it's their life. It's their life. And if they don't really want that, you know. If we try to push our kids into something, you know, when they're younger and they really don't want to do something, listen to them. Goodness sakes. This from a mom who lost a child, I wouldn't say as a pushy mom at all, but sometimes we can look at our kids potential, yeah, and want things like that.
Brenda Rachel 54:17
So I think that some parents are liv through their children.
Vonne Solis 52:43
Yeah.
Brenda Rachel 54:24
If its things, experiences they missed in their own lives.
Vonne Solis 54:29
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 54:29
So, you know, so, I mean, we're really talking this, this, I AM. I AM is very individual.
Brenda Rachel 54:34
Right.
Vonne Solis 54:35
So keeping the lower i am, ego. And I will say, for the most part, intending comes from ego.
Brenda Rachel 54:37
Right.
Vonne Solis 53:35
It has to, because here we are sitting in this body of ours and going, Oh, well, I really would like, you know, or whatever, do your list. That's all ego, okay? The holiday, the car, the job. Anything that is in the physical, material context, that's ego. The spiritual part of it, when we sort of, you know, I'm just going to say it, almost kneel to the source and say, i am. i am feeling ill, i am feeling sick, i am suffering, right? And we're asking for release from that, you know, then it feels like we're almost a that spark. That, I don't want to say lesser, but there's, there's something like a word I'm looking for, but a very humble aspect of my being that is now requesting something from a much greater power than I am on my own able to really ignite because I wouldn't have the skills in this brain of mine. And this, this, I don't have that. That has to come through us through enlightenment. All of a so a connection, an absolute recognition of your connection to Source will come as enlightenment. Maybe a little awareness, but an enlightening moment.
Vonne Solis 55:36
It did for me, and I had more than one enlightening moment. I've had, like, maybe a handful of them, where I understood and I felt so connected. Like it is it is an experience you can't feel just from ego. And and so however it comes to us as a knowingness and you just know.
Brenda Rachel 55:36
Yeah.
Vonne Solis 55:37
And it will come to us in any way, but it is greater than coming as a request just from ego. That that's my experience with it. And I just want to share that and so you can understand the difference. So I've always sort of said it's fun to request and intend to manifest those earthly things. That can be really fun because we deserve them. And that right? And that's how we live. You know, I intended my ocean view here, but I went for it thinking, and when I say intended for us like we say, we don't sit there and intend. But I did years ago. Ihat a, I actually ran a global intention practice for a couple of years based on the work of Lynn McTaggart, who wrote The Intention Experiment. And she had a little part in her book where you could, you know, learn how to run a intention group around anywhere in the world. Which I did for two years, and absolutely loved it. And that was very much I intend I intend. And, you know, so there was a period in time and working with someone else, coaching someone else to it that we did use that language. But you and I don't use that language.
Vonne Solis 56:08
But wanting something. Having a deep desire within is kind of the same thing. And so an example when, when I talk about the ocean view back six years ago, and my husband and I lived at the waterfront, where we were living in in our in our small city. And and we wanted a bigger place, and I actually wanted a water view. And I just thought I remember telling talking to you many, many times about, well, I'm not in a financial position right now to be able to afford that, and The Universe, Source, the angels, thought differently and landed us in in our current ocean view condo. We've been living here for six years.
Vonne Solis 56:52
So what you think, and that's another piece I want to bring up as we get to the top of the hour here. Is what you think you want, but it could not ever happen. It's not possible. I need to have this much money. I need to be here. I need to be this. I need to be that. And you put all these conditions on what you from ego, right? Think you need to have to even entertain the idea you could manifest, quote, unquote, manifest this. Toss it. Because when The Universe, Source, God. Anything you want to call that delivers. For us it's the angels, all of that, right? You don't question that.
Brenda Rachel 57:34
No.
Vonne Solis 57:35
Right?
Brenda Rachel 57:35
No.
Vonne Solis 57:35
You trust.
Brenda Rachel 57:36
You trust.
Vonne Solis 57:37
You trust, and you believe and you have faith, right? I think we're going, I'm going to back when I edit this, and I think that we've given you quite a bit of information and things to think about. If not, we can revisit it in whatever we talk about in the future, because it is at the core of creating a life we want.
Brenda Rachel 57:57
Absolutely.
Vonne Solis 57:58
Even and I am going to say, in in some cases, even health. In many cases, health.
Brenda Rachel 58:03
Oh, absolutely.
Vonne Solis 57:54
But you know, like you have have had the Fibro diagnosis, and to date, there's no cure for Fibro. I have had bereavement, and there's certainly no way to change the bereavement, but there's certainly lots of ways I can change how I want to be in bereavement. Which I'm currently completely in the midst of, which is living in complete joy and acceptance of the experience in this incarnation. Again, we talk about a lot of that in our earlier episodes. How we arrived at at where we are in our life, when these things that have presented as great, great struggles for us. So you know, it's it's not impossible. In fact, it's quite possible and quite probable. In fact, it is totally probable, you will create exactly what you want, perhaps in a slightly different way and not in your time frame. But you will get it if it's something that you truly, truly want in your heart. You are aligned with and you know why you want it.
Brenda Rachel 59:11
Absolutely.
Vonne Solis 59:12
Any last thoughts?
Brenda Rachel 59:13
No. Believe, trust and have faith. And everything for the highest and best, always, always, you know for myself, and always this or something better for my highest and best.
Vonne Solis 59:27
With Source as your diving force. I love that.
Brenda Rachel 59:31
I love that too.
Vonne Solis 59:33
All right, this rounds out another one. Thank you for watching. Thank you for listening. It's been a blast. So once again, thanks.
Brenda Rachel 59:41
We are the Soul Sisters.
Vonne Solis 59:46
See you again.
Brenda Rachel 59:47
Bye.
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